I don't make a point of talking to W about my changes, but she mentions it quite often, sometimes casually, sometimes during an argument. We've been casually talking this week, no R talk, no D talk, no physical touch, just normal everyday stuff. We were talking about someone else this morning and she said "I don't think you realize how angry you were for so long." I definitely do, but I didn't really want to tell her everything I've learned about myself so I just said, "I do understand it" and left it at that. I'm with you here...if she wants to ask me questions about my personal growth, I'm happy to discuss, but it's not something I need to bring up. If she was DBing, she wouldn't trust anything I'd say anyway....it's all in the actions.
I'll work on a new set of goals and circle back to you.
I think 1-2 nights/week and an afternoon is a good goal. I've been trying to do movie night with my B and golf night every week already, so that generally gives me the 2 days....weekends I need to work on.
I took the day off today...going to dialogue with the W in a few mins, then taking the kiddos to see Batman. I told W we are doing pictionary and pizza tonight. She has a bday party to attend but she said she may try to cut out early to join us. I didn't really invite her or not invite her, but I'm glad she showed interest.
Tomorrow I've got to take my daughter home....summer break is about at an end. It's about a 9-10hr round trip for me, so I generally have a good chunk of thinking. This time though, I've decided I'm not going to come straight home. I'm going to take a detour and stay the night at my mom's, see some of my family that lives there. I'll take my new co-dependency book in case I have down time. Every time I make this trip I think about stopping at my mom's, but I never do. This time, I will, for me. It'll probably give my W some additional space too, which is what she's been asking for, so win win.
