No Expectations No Plans Being Okay No Matter What

[needgrace]

I'm not DB'ing that great. Since the slightly cringy text we haven't had much contact.

Hi Brit,

I think that you are being hard on yourself and your sitch, my dear friend.

First, YOU: every day you seem to have new insights and self awareness...and you show an amazing ability to take the insights and implement them pronto. you are XENA!

And I think it is to be expected that each time you have more contact or have less contact, it will bring up feelings. If it didn't, you would not be here, you would no longer care, you would have moved on totally and completely.. I think you are doing what is key, having the feelings, good and bad, not reacting to them in the crazy way we (well I ) did at first, acknowledging them like you did here and moving through them... to me, that is healthy...not having them is not...

Knowing you...you probably already have and this message is not even needed by now. . But if you have not, sit with them, open to them and learn from them, that is what YOU do best.

And second, as for your sitch, look at your progress over the past weeks... and remember what cadet says, that time is your friend. H seemed to bounce into an R and you don't want him just to bounce back bc you did X...

you want him to make a solid decision...and that takes time.

((( )))