Look at it this way Joey.

This is your issue.

So you have to own it.

You have to decide what is acceptable and unacceptable with you.

A boundary time for yourself.

If the boundary for you is that

I will only be involved in a active healthy sexual relationship

Then you go about it.

But first you need to set that up and do the work.

Build trust. Build attractiveness. Do the work.

Lead.

Then when you are at a point where you know that you are ready to enforce this boundary.

You lead.

You state it.

You let her know that it is unacceptable for her to ignore or minimize problems that you see in the marriage.

Then you watch her actions to determine your course of action.


As this problem will never go away for you.


But to get to this point you have to work on yourself.

It goes like this.

Your Responsibility

Work on yourself. Rebuild trust and attractiveness.

Her Responsibility.

Work on herself. Rebuild trust and attractiveness.


Then when you are both at this point.

Marriage Responsibility.

Rebuild trust and communication. Work on and resolve marriage issues.

So step back and work on yourself.

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