GALbaby~Listen to Snodderly, she's a very wise woman. It really is amazing some of the things they do or say that sound like a toddler or a teenager, and yes sometimes it's hard not to laugh when they act like it! I truly believe the good man is in there somewhere, and that's why I told H that when he asked me during our conversation why I would want to be with someone so selfish and who has hurt so many people. I can see through the body snatcher, the depression, the confusion, the fear, right into the good man who's being pushed so far down it's hard to tell if he will ever emerge.
snodderly~ Yeah, the food thing is so unbelievably crazy it's funny! Tunnels have a beginning, a middle and an end, sometimes I wonder just how deep this tunnel is...
seeking answers~I noticed that too, it does seem as if they are looking for a fight. During that conversation he said he thought I was trying to start a fight about the AC (hello, projection much?). I was just trying to save money, I'm evil like that. lol
Kaffe~I totally agree that they aren't consciously doing all of the button pushing and fight picking. I also believe there are a lot of times he really truly doesn't know what he's going to do from minute to minute. There are moments I can clearly see the confusion in him. Regarding the on the way out thing, I've come to the conclusion it will take as long as it takes and I will focus on the positives, no matter how big or small. I think your W recognizing anger in her e-mail was a good thing. Time will tell. I also think it's hard to keep seeing someone as the enemy when they won't fight with you and keep saying positive things. I mean really, is that someone you really want out of your life and you want to blame for all your unhappiness? Just my thought, who knows, I'm going to keep being me, I like me, and other people in Normalville seem to like it. LOL
T~Hello stranger! Thank you for your encouraging words. I hope H sees the tunnel exit soon too. I have always been a patient person, but sometimes MLC makes me feel like I met my match, but that won't stop me. H once told me I'm the most patient person he knows, I'm going to prove him right. Even on the most down of days for me my hope and faith endure...some might say I'm crazy, but that's ok, they don't define me.
Home Front Update~ In an effort to both give space and GAL I went to dinner and a movie with a friend after work. I didn't get home until about 12:30, again, usually don't stay out that late on a work night, but I have off work today (use it or lose it time) H doesn't know that. When I got home I was pleasantly surprised... H had turned on the AC and the fan in my room and shut both of the doors so it would be cooled down for me when I got home. I thought that was a very sweet thing to do! This morning I heard him getting up to go to the gym, it was just before 5:30. I got up and when I heard him leave the bathroom and head back to his room I came out of my room. I said, "Hey, I just wanted to thank you for turning on the AC in my room. That was very nice, I really appreciate it. Thank You." He said you are welcome twice. I went back into my room.
I'm guessing tonight he will probably stay out late since he seems to do that after I have either been out late or not home at all. Who knows, I'm just going to enjoy my day off! I already hit the gym so that's out of the way. LOL
It really is amazing some of the things they do or say that sound like a toddler or a teenager, and yes sometimes it's hard not to laugh when they act like it! I truly believe the good man is in there somewhere, and that's why I told H that when he asked me during our conversation why I would want to be with someone so selfish and who has hurt so many people. I can see through the body snatcher, the depression, the confusion, the fear, right into the good man who's being pushed so far down it's hard to tell if he will ever emerge. 
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