Hey man. Let's pretend for that my wife and I both feel horrible over the way this whole thing was handled. How's that?
Hey man...
Why the anger ?
I didn't say that you didn't feel horrible over this..
All I said was that there was a lot of anger coming through in your words when you speak of it....
If that is untrue, then tell me....
Originally Posted By: JoeyP
Of course it made me angry. Of course I was very hurt. Most people would be hurt when they find their spouse has hidden something so intamate and so personal for a year. And. It still hurts just a bit even to talk or type about it now. It's something I gave never shared with anyone. Ever.
Why ?
When have YOU taken the time to vent your frustrations about this ?
Have you seen a therapist ? Any counseling ?
This is an "us" (as in you and her) issue, yet it is also a Joey issue that has to be dealt with too.
How did that make you feel ? I would venture that it made you feel like less of a man ? And I can tell you, that if you feel that way, then you should look into some counseling, to work through that within yourself...because that couldn't be further from the truth.
Originally Posted By: JoeyP
I included it as part of our story here because I think it's the most obvious place to start. It's where out imtamscy issues began
This is where I differ for now...
I think there were issues in place BEFORE this started, that led to her being secretive about this.
Why would you think that she felt uncomfortable coming to you with this ?
Originally Posted By: JoeyP
"my way" of approaching this issue has been what else was suggested here just a few post ago in this thread. That we seek another doctor who is willing to work with us and not just say "everything looks ok". My wife's only response has been to do nothing. Should I make dr appts and FORCE her to go? I have told her I am willing to do whatever she wants to move forward on this issue.
What does SHE want to do ???
When I say...'your way'....
If she chooses to do nothing, and you push for her to do something....How is that supporting her ?
That would be your way of fixing her problems...
I can tell you this...
While hormones DO play a part in a Woman's life...Rarely do they lead them to make this sever of a decision...
So when I see someone trying to blame ALL of their problems on hormones, it usually is a front for something deeper....
So, what do you want to do ?
Originally Posted By: JoeyP
At what point is she accountable for doing nothing at all?
