Kimmerz, From your posting, it sounds like the ow is staying out of the picture a bit to allow him the time to spend w/his daughters. The activities that he is offering up to ow are the exact opposite of what he would do w/you. You have to remember that he's not the same person you once knew. They tend to do things w/the op that they didn't do w/us. Yes, it can create jealousy and resentment in us, but we have to try to put a lid on those emotions as they will fester and create tension and anger that we do not need to be walking around with. The hardest part of the journey is to remember, he may look and sound like your xh, but he's not the same person, personality-wise. He is a "pod person" right now.
M Go Blue use to recommend many of Gary Zukav's books to the posters. He was very good at capturing some of the phrases and bringing here to the board for others to read. You may want to do a search on him and read some of his postings.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
