I think you hit a good spot to dig a little. Really be honest with yourself, and see what comes to the surface...
This is the hard stuff BD, yet it is the part of it that will complete you as a person down the road..
Becoming that person, is what will ultimately give you the best shot at restoring your relationship....
Counter-intuitive huh ?
So, would I be safe to assume that working on your control issues will help you in the other areas that you have identified as trouble areas ???
I highly recommend reading Co-dependant No More
A lot of things that you see in there will really open your eyes, and help you see things from a new perspective.
And maybe you should re think your list of personal goals. I think it helps to re-evaluate them as you grow...
Thanks. You have really helped me think thru some stuff. I read "The Journey Called You" a while back...I think that was one of my first books I dug into when I started to question how I felt about things, before the bomb was even dropped. One of the things that stuck with me from that was that once you start down the path of personal improvement, you start to question everything, and the journey turns into a lifelong project.
I definitely feel like that and I've even told my wife, this is the beginning of change, it's not a short lived thing...it's going to continue. I've just begun to change into the person I want to be...I don't plan on stopping. But sometimes answering those hard questions is just that...hard. But I thank you for asking them...I think I've grown much faster with your guidance than I would have on my own.
Will definitely pick up the book you suggest....more growth!
