You didn't give me trouble, I know you meant well. I don't like when people only tell me what I want to hear. What good is that? Besides, who was it that said "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer (Lincoln, I thought)?" You offered me a very appropriate "opposite" to my sitch. You and Adinva both.
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we're in a rebuilding stage.
Are you two reconciling? I thought I was caught up on your sitch but must have missed that. That is great if you are!
I think you have a great attitude about your sitch. I think all of us have to decide if the little things are really big things, and vice versa. No one else can tell us either.
Your quote was deep, but much easier said than done. I'm hard-pressed to think that a person whose house has burnt down is mentally making it worse than it is. It would be horrible and long-impacting. I get the essence of it, but it just seems rather simplistic. Some people are naturally more like that than others. I was reading an article this week on a "condition" where people are inappropriately happy all the time. Basically, chemically wired that way, only it's the opposite of depression. I would agree that most people can chose a better attitude, just like most people have the capacity to lose weight. It is, however, easier for some than others because of.... well, sooo many things.
To your statement, "I was really fine with not going to the festival," it's not the same as "I really don't want to go." So if your H is an acts of service guy, he would still be programmed to your preference to go and trying to make that happen. You inadvertently rained on his parade by eliminating his opportunity to be a hero and provide. In his defense, I believe he probably still thought he was doing something for you, that you had originally said you wanted and could be interpreted as still wanting to.
