Yes. Long ago. I have told her I support her fully through this.
Joey, it's been 4 years ? And you are still angry about this...
I can read it in your words when you speak of it.
Let me give you this to chew on.....
When you forgive another person, it is NOT for them, it is for you. Forgiveness means that you don't ever bring it up again.
From what I see, this is a sticking point for you in every facet with her.
You SAY that you are there for her , and you will work through it with her....
Yes ????
I really want you to think about this....
By saying that, in the words that you have used...
You are laying every ounce of this in her lap. You are blaming her for doing this TO you.
You are insinuating that SHE is the one with a problem....
Where are you in this ????
At what point are you validating her ?
At what point are you not trying to fix her problems with your solutions ???
From what I read....you are there for her, as long as she does it your way....
And I would REALLY like to be wrong about this....
Am I ???
Hey man. Let's pretend for that my wife and I both feel horrible over the way this whole thing was handled. How's that?
Of course it made me angry. Of course I was very hurt. Most people would be hurt when they find their spouse has hidden something so intamate and so personal for a year. And. It still hurts just a bit even to talk or type about it now. It's something I gave never shared with anyone. Ever.
I included it as part of our story here because I think it's the most obvious place to start. It's where out imtamscy issues began
But I have let go of it and I have forgiven her.
"my way" of approaching this issue has been what else was suggested here just a few post ago in this thread. That we seek another doctor who is willing to work with us and not just say "everything looks ok". My wife's only response has been to do nothing. Should I make dr appts and FORCE her to go? I have told her I am willing to do whatever she wants to move forward on this issue. At what point is she accountable for doing nothing at all?
