Sting is good !!!

Sting , is what keeps you stepping forward...

Sting , is what drives you do be different...

I think you hit a good spot to dig a little. Really be honest with yourself, and see what comes to the surface...

This is the hard stuff BD, yet it is the part of it that will complete you as a person down the road..

Becoming that person, is what will ultimately give you the best shot at restoring your relationship....

Counter-intuitive huh ?

So, would I be safe to assume that working on your control issues will help you in the other areas that you have identified as trouble areas ???

I highly recommend reading Co-dependant No More

A lot of things that you see in there will really open your eyes, and help you see things from a new perspective.

And maybe you should re think your list of personal goals. I think it helps to re-evaluate them as you grow...