Wow, that's a serious question. At first, I just wanted to cop out and say that's just the way I am, but wow, that one stings. The more I think about it, the more upset I am....and I can't really explain why that makes me feel so sad. I should be happy I'm figuring this stuff out, but maybe this one is a little close to home.
I took a look at a quiz on "am I controlling" and unfortunately, I passed. The thing that really stuck out to me was the resulting paragraph:
Quote:
You are a controlling person. You feel that control is necessary because people hurt your feelings a lot, and your memory of this goes back into your painful childhood. To keep from being hurt more, you try to control your feelings, which basically means you are very selective about revealing yourself to others. Your overriding need to be in charge or to have things your way drives people away from you, despite the fact that you work very hard to take care of their needs. The only emotion you show easily is anger or irritability. You constantly explain your motives and give reasons for why you are the way you are, but somehow this doesn’t help you get you what you want, which is other people’s love and affection.
This describes, at least for most of my life, pretty well. So just like my insecurity, my unwillingness to open up completely to my wife, and my judgmental attitude, control is another piece of the puzzle.
