I think we need to use these next several months to really, truly figure things out!!! I just don’t know what the future holds, but I know that I signed a 9 month lease and so this is probably a 9 month thing... at a minimum.
I think with regards to the house that I really need to understand and be a part of things more. My friend had a great idea - why don’t we meet with a realtor who specializes in short sales, and understands foreclosures and deeds in lieu. She is one of the very few who I tell a lot to because she has been through a lot of what we are going through. What do you think?
Let's plan some time to meet next week and talk more...
So Friday night around 5pm you pick up the kids or I'll drop them off? They will stay with you until Monday morning - I'll ask the sitter to be there at 730am. The kids will be very happy to have additional time with you!
My thoughts:
That hurt!!!!!! Can I go beat my head against the wall now??? BTW, I still plan on reading the CS book you mentioned. We’ve never talked about a timeline on our separation, I guess this is a starting point. But WTF did I expect!! My W to take one step forward and then all of a sudden jump up and down, give me a big hug, say I love you and want to be with me again….Yeah, I did start to get my hopes up a bit but I am also realistic when it comes to not having any expectations.
I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a bit discouraged. I just need to remember that I feel I am doing a good job at this and I will also always continue to be a great father. I need to continue working on myself and stick with DB’ing.
I have a feeling my next response will probably be one of the last notes that has any R talk involved, at least for a while. I think I need to validate her timeline, validate her request to discuss the house and validate the logistics with the kids over the weekend? Since this is another important response, could you help me with it?
Me(M):38 W:42 Together: 14 Married: 11 D: 4 S:8 W wanted separation 5/5/12 Stopped living together 5/5/12 Currently DB’ing
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”. Thomas Jefferson
