Need help, lost right now. I feel if I move on I'm giving up and if I don't, I'm wasting my life away.
Hey Shocked. I just read thru your first thread. I'm sorry for your sitch.
One of the things that jumped out at me, and I know it's been a few weeks since you've posted so take it with a grain of salt, is that you seem to be having trouble detaching. You are trying to mind read and paying entirely too much attention to what your W says or does. You should be focusing on you right now. You can't control her, you can't MAKE her come back, you can't MAKE her see it your way. You can only control you.
I've spent the good part of the last 18 months reinventing myself, becoming who I want to be, and just a few days ago, after some discussions with Mach1, I figured out that I missed a major negative in myself. I'm a fixer, and by nature like to have control of the situation....even though I thought I was helping, I was controlling. My point is, two things....1) make changes in you for you and 2) even if you think you've already made all the changes you need to, take another look. If your W hasn't come around yet, there's a reason.
Hang in there...don't get down on yourself. Have some fun for you. Give your W the space she needs. Focus on those boys. As 25 said multiple times, this is a marathon....
