You're right, I'm not over it nor have I accepted it. My W left for me another man. I don't know how to accept it, it is still unbelievable to me. I need to figure out how to accept it obviously. Perhaps I have accepted it in a way since having done anything stupid after recently confirming their R.
Your right on the SS front, I am spending time with him and would like to with my other SK's for them and me. I won't be speaking of my W at all. Thank you for setting me straight, there is no need to text and YOU SPUN IT SO I CAN SEE HOW IT WOULD BE PURSUIT and I greatly appreciate that because that's been one of the things I haven't grasped yet. So we'll hit some baseballs and get Japanese food on Monday. I've decided I'm not even going to ask my W permission, he is asking me to hang out and is 17 so I'm going to risk assume her not having an issue with it. I do want to have a relationship with my SK's if possible. Thank you for your single mom viewpoint, I wouldn't have came to the conclusions you did on my own for sure.
I still have a lot of work to do on forgiveness, I work on it every day. I think I could have dealt with her just walking away, that was justified. To start the affair while we were still together and then tricking me out of the house I built for our family and taking all possessions of value while leaving me their trash to clean up was uncalled for. I think coming back to that shell of a house with their trash in it with everything of sentimental value left behind was worse than the bomb itself. Self diagnosis above to concentrate on forgiveness for sure.
And from this point forward I am no longer going to mention W R with or the OM at all..... And focus on being a friend to my W if the opportunity presents itself.
Thanks again Brit, GAL long weekend for me hope all you guys have a good one! :-)
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
