Jack and GH, both of these posts are awesome, so many of us need to hear these things and im glad you posted them here.
Denver, its awesome to hear the stories of those who get their spouse back. Although I know we're supposed to be ok either way, I dont think anyone would be at this particular site if it wasn't for the fact that they wanted to save their marriage. Good for you and keep working and let us know what works and doesn't once piecing starts cause im hopeful to get to that stage one day.