My divorce has worked out to be a very good change for me, even though it brought up all of my fears. What it has done is helped me to face my fears and learn what they are all about.
I'm still working on them, and probably will until the day comes for me to return home. That is how it probably should be.
We are here to learn the lessons that are intended for each of us. We continue to have the same experiences, sometimes with different people, over and over until we finally learn the lessson we are supposed to learn.
For some of us, especially me, we have to repeat the tough experiences over many times before we finally "get it." I seem to learn better by attending the "school of hard knocks.
Originally Posted By: M Go Blue
My second marriage has brought up the same issues I had in my first. The issues are not within my new wife, but within me. Changing spouses does not make the old issues go away.
Your MLC spouse has believed that their new OW/Om is their "soul mate" and there old issues have dissapeared. Trust me, it's just a matter of time before your spouses issues will resurface their ugly head again.
This is real gold.
Paul is about my age as near as I can calculate. Figuring out these issues is our challenge. And how to do our work on them. It does not mean that our marriages will survive or reconcile since we appear to have no CONTROL over that.
Thanks M GO Blue I am a little late responding but I have lots of TIME.
