so defeated and scared silly

[scaredsilly]

LOL! cv, you're still around...stalking the one who gave you so much trouble!

well, when the time is right and he brings it up (because he was the one who overstepped and yet, got upset), and i think he will, i'll let him know that i didn't feel listened to.

he'll either take what i'm saying and use it in the future or not.

then, depending on what happens, i'll have to decide if i can continue to live with someone who is like that, or not.

he's better than you H (i think) in that he's open more to the problems he creates. it's just that he's not open at the time. later on, he brings something up and will ask if it's inside the parameters i've requested.

it's kind of sad what little boys they are and how they have to be handled with kid gloves. i do know that i'll get nowhere with anger. i also know that i will have to be willing to forgive and look for solutions. if there is no solution or he refuses, again, i will have to decide how important it is to me.

is he good on the big things and poor on the small ones? are the small ones becoming big ones for me? as i said above, it's all playing by ear right now. we're in a rebuilding stage.

i wish i had concrete answers but there's so much flux in our relationship right now and in the people we see ourselves as and/or want to become.

i hope you're doing well.