Piecing - Round 1

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I am confident that my W has ended it. That actually occurred about 6 months ago, but he lingered around until about a month ago. She was very clear with him this time. Blocked him on FB (although he did try to friend me last week LOL) and blocked his number on our cell phone plan. I've heard it before, but I sense a real difference when we talk about it. I could still be wrong, I know, but are there ever any real guarantees? She does know that if she resumes any real contact with him, that I am done and will file. There is no gray area anymore with me. I've made that very, very clear to her.

Those real guarantees come with time and the rebuilding of trust.

Six years later? That last time I looked at my wife's phone...was a year ago? I don't know, I know I did, I know that I look forward to saying the last time I looked was over two years ago.

Understand that the loser OM that you have described, and we have talked about will likely try and keep trying to contact her. Not...her contacting him, but him trying to contact her.

Try not to get upset about that. Barring her putting him down with a bullet, it takes a stalker about two years on average(research on the internet) to find a new fixation. She should be telling you when he does try to get ahold of her. BUT very important here, based upon YOUR reaction to this news will aslo determine if she keeps telling you.

Imagine if you get upset, visibly, and/or more importantly at her for this douche bag trying to get in touch with her. While she is being honest and open and living up to what you want her to do, what is her reward if you get upset?

Think about it. The next time he trys to contact her why would she want you to get upset or worst case mad at her? And if she doesn't tell you and you find out?

We talked about pitfalls? That was one I got stuck in.

So be careful of YOUR reaction to her honesty about something she has no control over.

This guy is a douche bag, with douch bag tactics...do not let this loser impeded you and your wife reconcilling.