so defeated and scared silly

[scaredsilly]

Well, great minds think alike! I did exactly that. I sent him an email at work this morning:
Me-
"I've been thinking about how to avoid the hurt feelings and confusions that happened yesterday in the future. Any ideas?"

H-
"No I don't, sorry!"

Ha! I think he's feeling sorry for himself. About 20 mins later, I called him. I was upbeat (hey, what's up, buttercup!") and asked him how things are going. I could hear him choke up and he said he was "worried about my job".

He had someone coming into his office so her couldn't talk but I texted him later to see if he's free this evening and we're meeting for dinner.

I think, deep down, he knows he overstepped. But he's not the type to admit mistakes easily or say he's sorry. I think he will but it will be more likely if I don't push and just let him see that after he makes a mistake like this, and I let him know he's gone too far, I can not be angry and still be pleasant. If I show him that, maybe he will let go of anger more readily, too, and stop being the "victim"?

Ya think?! I'm playin' it by ear, here! ;-)