I have been thinking about this for a few days and again, my comments are made with the "fixer" mentality, and by trying to fix it, I'm trying to control it. I actually think I've noticed this when I'm talking, I just justify it by saying it's about the kids, or it has to be said, or something else. This is an extremely bad habit now that I look at it, and given my other behaviors regarding insecurity and not trusting, this is probably seen as more of the same in my W's eyes. No wonder she feels controlled....when she says "hey, I'm feeling controlled," I respond by saying "I have a fix for that, do this instead." Doh!
