Mach, great help on the boundaries. I guess my point was, I tried to set some boundaries and it didn't work at all, so I need to look at what boundaries I really want and how to set them.
The points on #1 are exactly what I needed. I've got to stop sitting here waiting...I've got to lead, I've got to take care of me. If she chooses to not come along, then that's her decision and her loss.
On #2, I'm not sure that is a boundary I should set. It is something that is very hurtful to me, and it just adds to the stress of this roller coaster ride, but I don't think I should have to say that. I'm going to think on this one a bit.
With regards to the morning discussion, another great suggestion. I should have noted, she didn't get upset or anything. She was very polite and told me the work she had to get done before a meeting. I just don't want to talk like that as I know it's a destructive type behavior, regardless who I'm talking to.
