W was true to her work and probably only stayed 1hr max with her gfs. I wasn't really concerned about it, and didn't even think about when she'd be home or not be home. I just focused on me, and movie night....but the fact that she actually followed thru is progress on her part.
She got home in the middle of the movie and showered, and told me a funny story about a girl who they saw at the wine bar. We then settled in to finish the movie and went to sleep after.
I goofed this morning...she woke me up with a touch and told me about her day. It was only about 630am so I said "where are you going now?" Clearly she was dressed for work, so she had something she needed to do. Even if she was meeting someone for breakfast, what does it matter. I could have asked "do you have an early meeting?" or something similar....I don't think that has the controlling aspect to it like "where are you going" does. Anyway, small error....and I did just wake up, so I'll give myself a break.
I have been thinking a little about boundaries. I think in the last year, I tried to set 2:
1) Inform me of evening plans/changes 2) Stop using D talk as a weapon in arguments
Really, neither of these have been held up. She's continually rolled over both. All of a sudden, she seems to be paying attention to #1 now, but if she's really planning on moving out in 2 weeks, perhaps she's just trying to keep the peace until then. I don't know, but I'm going to spend some more time thinking about what boundaries do I want now and how can I hold firm on them.
