"Now i can't explain it, but constantly over apologizing, keeps the offended party from moving on. It's hard to explain. You cant be totally callous, but overly apologizing just keeps reopening the wound, and the other person can't move on. They get stuck in victim mode."
GB, OMG! THIS is a major dynamic in my r with my H. i need to stop this, too. thank you so much for pointing this out.
navy, i guess we just need to take the attitude that the past is the past and we are done apologizing for it and for every little crappy thing from now on. relationships have issues and differences to settle. i will no longer be responsible for my H's happiness and be the blame for his unhappiness.
thanks, GB.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
