You people don't know what it's like to live with someone who makes me feel like I'm nesting in a thorn bush.
Some of us do know how you feel. Complaining about it is not good for your esteem either, because it reinforces it. Keep in mind some of us have been through exactly what you have been through.
That the light at the end of the tunnel is either your wife back, or a life that you cherish with someone who is thankful to have you - and not a train coming at you.
Keep the complaints to yourself, the echo is not good for you. Know that some of us are hear with you in spirit. Realizing that the devil has attack on family, positive relationships, love, proper male/female relationship format.
We're having a great long weekend visiting my little brother in SD! We've blown up water jugs with rifles and shotguns, yesterday lots of water sports like tubing and skiing with me and the two boys.
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
Yes it's perfectly natural. That's why it really is up to you.
My W had a fling with her boss that I had to overcome. I was able to see how strong I was as a human being at that point. Everyone must make their own decision.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Yes it's perfectly natural. That's why it really is up to you.
My W had a fling with her boss that I had to overcome. I was able to see how strong I was as a human being at that point. Everyone must make their own decision.
Right now I'd pass on resolving the Marriage, but I feel I might after time. But not now for sure. There is no eye contact or communication at all now between us.
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
Has the OW contacted you since you both met and went back to her appartment? I think you need to be prepared by knowing in advance how you will handle this if she does. And if she doesn't, you need to realize that it will be very tempting to meet a new woman to chat with, or meet.
Your emotional defenses are down, and turning to the opposite sex would be easy (especially since you've already done it once).
It's not an easy battle, but it can be won!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Has the OW contacted you since you both met and went back to her appartment? I think you need to be prepared by knowing in advance how you will handle this if she does. And if she doesn't, you need to realize that it will be very tempting to meet a new woman to chat with, or meet.
Your emotional defenses are down, and turning to the opposite sex would be easy (especially since you've already done it once).
It's not an easy battle, but it can be won!
We have still met and I'm helping her through her marriage. Things are looking up for the OW and her husband. Now OW and I are working on friendship and her resume. I'm getting close to moving out by the end of the month. Our house and yard are looking bad and it bothers me a little because our boys see this and I'm not allowed to help my wife and she's made this very clear. So it's her choice. I'm moving on!
M44 / W43 Married 24 / Together 24.5 S12 S7 ILYBNILWY/Bomb: 4-15-2012 Counseling started 5-1-2012 Counseling ended 6-7-2012
"We have still met and I'm helping her through her marriage. Things are looking up for the OW and her husband. Now OW and I are working on friendship and her resume."
You're trying to help OW in her M? Do you not think that is very inappropriate since you had oral sex wit her?
Please take my advice and stay away from that woman! You are headed for a lot of trouble if you don't.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
