TIME for a change

[25yearsmlc]

So got a random text from the W this morning:

it's a thank you from her young d, to you. It's a courtesy.


W: <SD> came home from <her XH> last night and loves her candy land game. She wanted to thank you but it was too late to call so I told her I'd tell you.

I don't really see any reason to respond to this. She didn't ask a question.


B/c it is polite to say "you're welcome" or "glad she liked it" and ending the talk then. THAT Would have been healthy and not pursuit.

But since she was being polite but did not reach out to you, you didn't respond? Can you see how self centered that is? Her politness didn't meet all your needs --so you'll show her, you'll ignore it.

Hey, it's a small thing but you can learn from this^^^...


Is that not utter BS? lol I guess it would have been extraordinary to instead consider letting her call me today to say thank you.

You're kidding, right? Oh No you're not. You say "lol" but right after "utter BS" so you are angry but trying to mask it.

You are angry (again) that she didn't send you a message wrapped the way you wanted it, so you rejected it...



So no response is the best response to this right?

not in my opinion. It would have been rude of her not to say anything.

She conveyed the message to you sooner rather than later, but you call that "utter BS".
and I think

if she'd had the girl call you the next day (you'd be mad about the delay)

AND if your wife did not speak much to you but had the step daughter talk instead, then you'd have been angry at your w for not calling you herself. Either way, you "win" (she loses) b/c you get to be angry again.



Thanks in advance for any opinions on this little gem, and good luck to all in your respective sitch's!

I hope I'm not too late to make a small difference in how you think these things out.

Why'd your first marriage fail? Ever wonder?

Also do you go to meetings to stay sober?