April, I have zero desire to enter into another relationship with my XW. I do not find the person she is showing to me to be attractive. She is still running and spewing so I believe she is not interested in another relationship with me.
I am redefining what success means to me. For the time being it is to be happy with myself and my situation.
I would like to have a relationship as deeply trusting and loving as I once had with XW. I am open to the possibility it could be with her. Possible, not probable. I sometime wonder if I will trust like that again. It is another thing to add to the box of things I need to work on.
That said I do know of two couples that divorced for a time and got back together. One is still together and seems to be happy with each other. The other lasted long enough to get their son through HS before D again.
So it does happen. You're done when you decide you're done. In the mean time try and find some bliss whatever your situation. Life is too short to waste it upon sadness, anger and resentment.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
