There is nothing scarier than letting go. Then saying I can't control the outcome and I can't make you make the right choices or what I believe are the right choices. And even though you will lose all the pain and hurt and sense of betrayal and rejection, if you let go its still the scarier option...because you probably can't imagine that that's what will happen.
I wish I could put you on a little emotional express train and speed you past to the other side of this hill and you could see how free and confident and happy you'll feel. Then you'd want to cross that hill.
Most of us have made that journey and we can see that's what you need to do but you have to walk over the hill by yourself. You have to make the choice.
None us believe that having an affair is okay. But right now he is in a relationship with someone else, you treating him badly because of this choice doesn't get you closer to your goal.
I ask you again what would you be doing differently if I told you the outcome is you never get back together?
