Needing some guidance... 5

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Just tired. It takes everything I have to not look at this in a negative way. To stop the pit in my stomach. To focus on something else. Anything else to stop this pain. I'm exhausted from the constant emotional turmoil I'm in. Every direction I turn I feel lost, trapped, and hurt.

I have very much lost it this week emotionally.

remember the steps of the process:
lose the negative feelings.I know this is hard but when you do, you will feel relieved.

I know exactly what you're going through.
An old post from my thread I wrote:

"There are no consequences for my actions". should be the WASs creed.

I'm going to totally scr3w you over and disrupt your life. I want to be OK with that and want you to do things for me when I need something.

Then a former poster responded with:

LBS creed - I can handle anything thrown my way. I am responsible for my actions, thoughts and happiness. I will respect my WAS and let their problems be their problems. I am fun, confident, interesting and capable. I am attractive. I am interested in others well being. I choose to thrive regardless of my circumstance. I am a warrior.

2x4 time,
jks, we as the LBS have choice too.

I don't recall one M being saved by a LBS who just sat around waiting for the WAS to come back. Even less of a chance(If ANY) if the LBS is pursuing.

It doesn't work that way. Look at history of the boards,
In most people's first post they admit to doing all the wrong things........begging for another chance, promising things will be different, buying gifts etc.
Let's add to that list.....Talking to family members on the other side.

Every time you chose to talk to his family, you are helping him to decide to be with OW.

Now look at couples in piecing and how they got there. Most of the time it's when the LBS completely lets go and starts living teir life for them. That's attractive.
Start thinking of ways to attract your H back to you with out pursuing.

I listed some in my earlier post to you.

Prepare for either outcome and know you will be fine either way.

YOU CAN DO THIS!.
gr8