Wow 25 again you disregard advice about stopping ML when there is another person involved.
STD's are real. They have life long affects. This is reality. Though you chose again and again to counter this advice.
This is someone's healthy and well being your tossing out the window.
As for this is DB-ing.
DB-ing is about gaining self respect so one is strong enough to bust the divorce.
Enabling a walk away by being a door mat has nothing to do with DB'ing.
REREAD MY POST DID I SAY LEAVE.
NO
I said do not tolerate crap behavior. An enabled wife such as his will build more and more resentment with the disregard for his feelings and his families feelings. It escalates. So he either stands up now for himself and his children or he does it in three months to a year later when he has had enough.
You know this by being on this forum for 6 years.
And yes I have read the books. I understand it. I know its strengths and its weaknesses.
So instead of attacking my post.
Post how you would handle the situation.
as DB-ing advice and all that.
"An enabled wife such as his will build more and more resentment with the disregard for his feelings and his families feelings"
With each disrespect, with each lie, with each affairious action she is building up an ego on her power side. It does not release easily. Add ontop of it oxytocin and you have a drug more powerful than heroin. It's now being too nice can get you hurt even worse, and there is really nothing that you can do. Once they start that monster up on you, you can pretty much put them out if you have means to do so. IE: "Well if your going to cheat, have HIM take care of you".
I hope you guys catch this. It's the compounding of building an EGO that doesn't have LBS in it, AND the effects of oxytocin.
