WHG: And so we file...

[workinghardguy]

I think what's doubly frustrating me is that I believe what motivated the filing now is her new guy friend. And it's not that she has a guy friend, it's that she's just repeating the exact same patterns.

She met me when she was divorcing her first husband. I can't remember if she had filed or was about to when we met. But she had been moved out from him for about three to four months and living with her dad and two little kids.

And here she is again. This was all about "being on her own", but now she meets this individual and so on.

No, I don't know if they are dating or not. She has told me they aren't but I don't put much stock in her words. If she is it would bother me, mainly because I really don't want me son around this guy on a permanent basis. He's going through a divorce right now too. A divorce brought about because he brought a mutual friend into a threesome with his wife and him, and then started sleeping with the mutual friend outside of the threesome too. Apparently that was the bridge too far. And yes, that sounds judgmental... and he's free to do what he wants, I just really don't want my son around it.

And I know... I don't get to have a say in it. So then this and counseling are the only places I really get to vent. So that's what I am doing.. venting.

I'd like her to get the help she needs and says she wants. That was her stated purpose. She's following the easier path of just repeating past behaviors I guess hoping for a different result? I don't know I can't mind read.

I can't control it or really influence it, but it is frustrating.