you're right, of course. it's so hard for a controller, like me, to not think about how the future is going to turn out and to try to make it happen. i'm a fixer.
any suggestions on how to get those kinds of thoughts out of my brain?
Brought this over from Brit's thread.
For me it took admitting it and facing my fear of the unknown. I have to be OK with not having all the answers and allowing things to just happen. Often the result is better than I could have imagined.
It takes such a load off when I can do this. But first I had to recognize my controlling traits. I'm constantly amazed when I really pay attention that my control mechanisms are sometimes so subtle that most people might not notice but I know what outcome I'm trying to force.
I think a lot more about my words and actions.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
