Needing some guidance... 5

[jks]

Also, I do think it does make it so much harder for H to end his R with her when he gets everyone so emotionally involved. They all love her. Don't tell me I'm mind reading... because you have to remember that this woman has been in our lives way before any of this happened. So I know how everyone feels about her. I was there when she was at the house and hanging out with everyone. And, something that H's mother said to H's aunt... I've never seen him happier.

I asked H's mother about this and she said, well, obviously he's not really happy because he's so confused but in the way of him being more relaxed and not as frustrated... I do see it. But to put out there... I'VE NEVER SEEN HIM HAPPIER???

So what about our wedding day?? What about the first 3-4 years of our marriage? He was just as happy. He was in love. I have videos and letters from him to prove it. So she pretty much discredited our entire R. I'm so sick of everyone looking at the last couple years of our M and thinking, well, this is it. This is how it's always going to be. Really? Because it was ALWAYS that way? No, it wasn't.

Everyone seems to forget that my H and I were actually a really good fit with each other and have had some really great moments together. He's comparing the last 4 or 5 years to something with someone that is brand new and fresh. Which then just helps him justify it all and everyone else is right on board.