so since this "friendship" theme is coming up - how does one respond to what my h just said to me a few days ago when i told him that it would be great to be friends:
well it won't be a real friendship because i won't be able to talk to you about things going on in my life. that's what friends do
i replied oh i meant that we could just hang out and be relaxed together and one in a while do something fun or frivolous
him: no that's not friendship
Hee hee!!
"labug and the fur coat"
now that sounds like a story book title - adventure story...
i'm starting to see now, that when one is detached enough - one can easily initiate contact with the spouse, because we don't "fear the consequences" any longer.
funny how until the detachment comes, we can't even see that that is a state we may reach.
good times labug, good times
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
