yes, what sbr says is very true, get outside (here) on the boards and meet other people (thru their threads).

There is a wealth of help and information and many different points of view.

Don't worry so much about what your W says, she's trying to figure it out herself.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss