Oh I'm a controller/fixer too! I'm not sure exactly how I learned to stop trying to fix and control. I read co-dependent no more and I seriously accepted that it was over. Your sitch is differnt, so it's an even harder fine line to walk. I think you have to say to yourself that you will be okay no matter what. You're a wonderful person with a lot to offer and you will be okay and you will have a wonderful relationship whether that's with him or not. If you start to truly believe that, it changes everything.
I know that I am re-attaching instead of detaching because I say something funny that I wanted to tell him about and then I was like oh, should I text him I don't know? I was never worried about this previously and the fact that I'm second guessing myself means I need to detach. Be bright breezy and fun.
