I probably blew it.

[Vorlon]

Robb,

[edited by dbmod: reference not recommended nor allowed] It is a straight up, no BS, direct forum. They don't make nice just for the sake of it but will give it to you straight.

Your wife's comment about why God won't tell her to go home is a total cop out. She simply doesn't want to grow up and honestly why should she. You have put up with her behavior before. People treat us as we allow them too. She is getting the love drug from the OM and you have proven you will wait for her until the OM gets tired of her. Then she goes back to Plan B (you). All the while she can come home anytime and enjoy being a wife and mother. Then when that gets boring she goes back to the OM.

Sounds like the perfect life for her. You don't make a big enough fuss to cause her any trouble so why stop. I know people here don't advocate exposure but w/o exposure there is no consequence. Other forums strongly advocate exposure. Who's right, I certianly dont know but like most things it depends on the situation.
So if this is the way you want to live then fine, go home and quit complaining about it. She'll probably come back in a year or two any way. You'll be what 55/56 by then and then maybe you can have a few years of a somewhat tolerable marriage until she does it again because she'll want to see if she still has it before she is too old or some other BS excuse. Like my other post...It all up to you, its your decsion to make or not. But it is still a decsion.

Good luck my friend. I may come off as a hard a@# here but it is simply because your story touches a nerve for me. I see you being taken advantage of by being too much of a nice guy or just by a manipulative women. Take care of you and your daughter and do what is right for you no matter what people like me on the internet say, even though we all know everthing said on the internet is 100% true!! :-))

Vorlon


[EDITED BY DBMOD TO ADD: Exposure is NOT recommended, it can never be 'undone', and may well end your marriage.]