Success stories post divorce?????

[25yearsmlc]

April

I've had 2 family members divorce and later remarry their exes, about 4 =5 years later. Each person had made signficant changes and there were children. I don't think anyone expected to reconcile at the time of divorce.

But there are other "Success" stories post divorce out there. I have 3 sisters, 2 of whom have been "involuntarily divorced."

Both ended up, eventually, happier than they would have been in their original marriages.

My older sister was the giver in her m, and her h was a taker. After 22 years and 3 kids and OW#2 (that I know of) HE left my sister.

My sister was heartbroken but dignified. She never "lost it" and 2-3 years after her h left, she remarried a man who really truly "gets her" in a way her first h never would have. I mean he DOES NOW...(yes, her ex h wanted to reconcile when he learned she was engaged but she told me that despite the pain of her children due to the divorce

"now that [she] knew what it's like to be THE priority in a marriage, [she'd] never go back" and she really is honestly, happier now than she could have been with her first h. Sure, she Still misses the inlaws and things like that,

but she personally as a wife, is better treated now than before.

Her ex broke her heart but he did her a favor.

(BTW, her ex h is remarried now too...to a woman HE describes as "high maintenance" so yes he does regret leaving my sister. But since my sister is now happier, all I can say is Yes my friend, Karma can be real)...

So I see her as a "Success story" post divorce.

My younger sister fell apart when her h left her. She had revolved around him and smothered him and didn't bring a lot to the table. She was totally helpless and dependent on him so When he left, she was devastated and it took A LOT OF POOP to wake her up and get her going again.

She remarried a man who got sick and she had to care for him and he died.
THAT got her into a new way of living...like a real adult.

NOW she's in her 3rd marriage and she's in the healthiest one by far. I mean I liked her 2nd h, but he got sick early in the marriage and suffered greatly but my sister really grew up.

So I also see her as a "post divorce SUCCESS story". NOT just b/c she's in a healthy marriage now, but b/c SHE is stronger and better than before. And happier.

Know what I mean?

There are several definitions to success here. You can create your own too.

Keep posting...there IS hope and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.