It is odd to me that your h's T would call and schedule an appt with you to tell you what your h said and where he is at. I also thought this^^^ was awkward at best and a breach of confidentiality at worst.
It does suggest a few possible paths for you though...knowing the T is your h's, then you can "fake it til you make it" when talking to the T,
and use the interactions you have to somehow convey to the t that you are in fact moving right along and letting go and moving forward in your life-
NOT necessarily by divorcing your h--- OR telling the T- but by being upbeat and listening...using the sessions as information gathering on your end...
or, perhaps, forgetting all that and only making YOUR growth, your focus... options...
-- Or don't go at all because right now you are working on you and not focusing on your h, right?
It may have hurt and reinforced some negative feelings but I'm w/ bug, nothing has really changed.
This is all part of a long process J and at times it feels like it will never end but you are doing great.
AMEN...
PS but the process DOES move along at its pace, as we do at ours.
And you do grow and you do backslide
and you do learn and you do pick yourself up and dust yourself off
and you get up, again, whenever you fall.
AND it gets better...
You will be happy again. A lot of the question about "WHEN" that will be, is up to you.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
