Needing some guidance... 5

[jks]

I did speak with H's mother this morning. I asked her if she feels like this is right... does she like having OW at her house and invited to all of the family functions? She said, no... she hates seeing it but doesn't know what to do. I said, it's your house, why don't you put your foot down and tell H that as long as he's still married and WANTS to be married that he can't bring her over and around the family? He's making it so much harder because he's getting everyone emotionally connected which then just makes it impossible for him to end his R with her. She said, she knows she needs to say something because it makes her sick to her stomach everyday. I told her if she has a problem confronting him about it then tell her H to say something. I just think H isn't really living with the consequences of his actions. He gets the best of both worlds and its so easy because his family has accepted his mistress with open arms. I know I have to stop focusing on what he's doing and what his family is doing but this affects me and my children so much. SOOOOO MUCH!!! And H told the therapist that he sees now that I've made some huge changes and that he now could see how things could be better between us. But he's also distanced himself from me so much that he doesn't know if he can come back from that. Awesome!