Wife back in home, things better than ever!

[Denver_2010]

Denver,

This is great news. It's sad that it takes playing the Ultimate Hole Card to get their attention (been there; done that), but there's zero doubt that it works.

Time to move to Piecing, buddy. You've earned it, and you'll get more specific advice there for this stage you are in. I can tell you, from experience, that as hard as this has been (and you have been through a LOT), Piecing is 5x more difficult. Not only that, the things that need to be done to be successful in affair- and divorce-busting are often diametrically opposed to what's needed in Piecing.

The good news? I think your skillset will actually be more tuned to Piecing than to affair-busting.

God bless, and VERY happy for you!!!


Starsky

Thanks Starsky. The ultimate hole card seems to have worked here. I thought about playing it many times during the 18+ months of my sitch. However, and I mean this as a warning to others, I think that you have to be completely willing to accept that it won't work and be completely willing to follow through, once you do really play that card. While I threatened a couple of times, I never really came close until May. But I had decided that I was willing to accept whatever that meant... even if it was the end of my DB journey and the end of my M. It took me a very long time, but I was finally ready.

And thank you for following my story and for all of your advice Starsky. We haven't always agreed, but you always gave me a different perspective to consider. I think that sometimes you were right, and other times that you were wrong. But you always cared. And for that, I am eternally grateful.

Denver