Things are pretty much status quo. Get this. XW spends father's day weekend "out of town." Nice!
We still don't talk about anything other than the kids and sometimes needed groceries
Funny thing is, she doesn't say when she's going to buy stuff. A couple times we've duplicated grocery items, but I just don't even bother to bring it up. She has a way of interpreting or twisting things around, so I just don't.
Had a good summer camp trip with S13 and the BSA. Spent the first week of July in the north GA mountains, swimming and whitewater rafting and stuff. I was lamenting to some of the other dads that S13 has really been slacking off on his scouting advancement and merit badges, but they set me straight. He's had a rough year; let him slide. And it's evident. We're under the same roof, but we far from resemble a real family.
In fact the day we got back, XW was treating herself to a hotel room at the beach. D18 wasn't answering her phone so after a few hours I decided to call XW and say "where is everybody?" She picked up the phone with a cold "yes?" Told me D18 was at work and she was at the beach. It struck me when we pulled in to the rendevious with all the other scouts how all their mothers and fathers were there waiting to see them and doling out the hugs and chatter, but S13 and I had no one.
Praying that night, I sensed God telling me XW was still deep in the "fog" and I should let it go. So that's that.
She still frets money issues and felt the need to tell me that the new school she's teaching at was not paying her thru the summer, because she wasn't there long enough. I didn't offer any sympathy. I feel like anything I say to her will either be taken the wrong way or just wasted. None of this validating or active listing and crap for me; I've had it.
My signature below has a saying - I am close if not already there.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
