"Financial Support" is one of the top 10 emotional needs itemized in the book "His Needs, Her Needs". Based on what you've written, that may be your wife's #1 emotional need. Whether you think her attitude is valid or not doesn't matter -- that's how she feels. If you support her so that she doesn't have to work, that's how she's going to feel most loved.
You might not think that's fair, you might not think it's right, you might think it's an antiquated view point. The problem is, you can't convince her not to feel that way. There is no logical argument you can make that will change how she feels. Financial Support is stereotypically a "top 5" for women, but not for men -- it's hard for you to identify with.
This is a common problem in marriage. If your W has the same attitude about one of your top 5 needs, you will feel similarly frustrated and unloved, even if your need is antiquated and illogical.
If "financial support" is your W's top need, you need to do some soul searching -- can you can come around to respect that, and make it your responsibility to meet that need with a good attitude? That might be what it takes to recover your marriage and keep it positive. That doesn't mean you need to be a rich man, but you do need to be "on top" of your finances and budgeting so that you don't make your wife feel insecure financially. If you keep her feeling secure on the finances front, she may not mind working.
That's a rough blow WRT the dog -- what are you going to do with him? You can't find a place that will take dogs? I might try to keep him if you can, the companionship is undoubtedly helpful.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
