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[ClingingToHope]

Sigh. Dinner with daughters. I gave up my normal night with them because I have to catch up on everything else.

They were talking about their fun weekend with their mom. D13 stressed they went with XW and their grandmother. That confused D9 so they went outside to talk it over.

At the restaurant, I asked them what the problem was at the house. They said XW told them to lie and say it was just XW and her mom on the trip.

I probably said too much in return.

I said, "I figured BF went along. I know he answered XW's cell phone on Friday when we got home, so I knew then he was going. I don't like the fact that she's taking you on trips to hotels with him, but there isn't anything I can do about it. I don't want you to lie about it."

D9 said she doesn't like to talk about places they go with BF because she knows it makes me sad.

"I understand honey, but I have to get stronger don't I?"

I should have stopped at this last part.

"Guys, I don't like the fact XW asked you to lie about BF. She's been lying to me about him for three years now. Just tell me the truth. I'll be fine."

In the end, the three of us decided we could talk about the fun trips or things they do with their "other" family, they just won't mention names. I'm good with that.

After dinner, I went to the library to pick up a book about anger my therapist suggested. My library didn't have it. I'm hoping the larger library system has it.

I felt a little sad during dinner because they went some places I would like to take them, but I know I've got lots of great places to go with them the next few years.