Hi Tinman,

I feel your pain. I am sure you can agree this is one of, if not the most difficult things we’ve been through. Be proud of yourself for trying to do everything you can. Like yourself, I am somewhat newer to this board however that doesn’t mean I am not perceptive. To be brutally honest, I’ve read your thread and it’s very clear. YOU ARE NOT LISTENING AND IMPLEMENTING WHAT SOME OF THESE WISE PEOPLE ON THIS BOARD ARE TELLING YOU. I don’t think it’s sinking in for you.

You thank people for their comments. Yes, that’s nice to be appreciative but you’re not implementing what they are telling you, plain and simple. You will defend yourself by saying something like “I did the right thing” or “ I don’t know how I could’ve handled things any differently”.

The consistency of those comments is a direct reflection to my point, you’re not listening. A lot of your thread revolves around knowledgeable people trying to pound the same things into you. You get to page 14 on your thread and your STILL telling her how great she looks? Come on now, you should know better than that by now.

I am mentioning this because I think you are doing things that are making things even harder on yourself when you’re actually supposed to have the “working on ME mentality”. In other words, your being counterproductive. I know it’s rough my friend. I know it’s not easy. I am right there with you.

Roughenough

Me(M):38
W:43
Together: 14 Married: 11
D: 4 S:8
W wanted separation 5/5/12
Stopped living together 5/5/12
Currently in DB stage

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”.
Thomas Jefferson