I see you've been getting some EXCEPETIONAL advice while I was gone at my daughter's wedding.
I also see that you're not only following very little of it, you're pretty much just defending your own actions and strategy, which -- at least from my view -- haven't been working.
I see so much of myself in you, it's scary. Like you, I had an answer for everything. For EVERYTHING. And I was wrong.
People that I thought were being dikks and a-holes to me, were actually right. Eventually, I saw it, but it wasn't until it was DAMNED near too late for me. I hope you'll open your eyes much sooner than I did.