It surprises me. Is she so incapable of empathizing with others that she can't see what the point of sex would be for others (such as you)?
If she were to read the tips for HD spouses at the beginning of this thread, she'd surely highlight this portion of #6 and call it a day:
6. Masturbate Since your sex drives are so disparate, it's unreasonable for you to expect your spouse to take care of each and every desire. You need to take responsibility for satisfying your own needs from time to time. ...
She'd say that if it works some of the time, it should be just as good all of the time. I think she sees it as just a kind of physical reflex. Perhaps since she's never had an "O" of her own, she doesn't understand the psychological connection. It's not like I haven't tried explaining it. What's hard to explain about it is if I've been satisfied one day, and then I want the same thing again the next day, her reaction is, "What? Again? You were just satisfied yesterday and now you need it again?" I mean, I really can see how it seems so ridiculous to someone who doesn't have that experience herself.
