Thanks. I agree 100 percent. To pretend to have an affair for any reason is just immature and wrong. Please re- read. Though I thought about it, I didn't do it. I even admitted it to her and told her once I thought it through just how hurtful and immature it would be. I apologized and told her I would never think about doing such things again.
We had the sex talk over and over again. She said it made her feel like that is all I wanted her for. I could see her point. I also explained just how rejected I felt. She never showed any desire to talk to other doctors or seek other ways of addressing the problem. We both just seemed to talk it to death with the same argument every time. ( argument 7 from the DR book)
Though you may be right in your suggestion of what I should say to lead, I am afraid of what will happen should I say that to her now. I am not far enough along or strong enough yet to take that approach.
