If She Won't Stop the Affair?

[wont_stop]

I'm going to start posting back here again as I cannot seem to get any posts place on the one in newcomers. It must be a very busy forum or I can only post to my original post.

Well last week was a hell week, after the trip. She was off with him all week and she kept coming home late. But I'm doing my best to let go, I have not ranted nor lost my temper, but it is not easy. I'm trying to decide if I want to put up with this crap any more, but I'm keeping it to myself. I'm doing DB with her best I can.

There was a ray of sun this week. She and her OM had an argument about some tickets he was getting for her to see a show with the kids. I was not to be invited. But, it turns out that when she told the kids, they demanded I be included, or they would not go. I had no part in this, this all happened behind my back. So she had to get his ticket back for me. She has not said it, but I think she was going to introduce the OM to the kids, and we are not even separated. I can't prove it though, she may just wanted to see if she could handle them at an event by herself.

Last night she told me not to give up on her yet. But I don't know if that will last, so I did not get too enthusiastic. We had dinner with her mother and watched a movie "Mama Mia" with the kids. Yet, in the morning I saw the sign that they will be together, she put on her high shoes and left talcom powder on the floor. He is taller than me, and she only started doing that when she started seeing him. So I guess she will get make up sex, while I work.

She works for the government, but they don't monitor her much. So they can go off for a long lunch. That is how they started. She told me about him the other night, how he had been asking her to go to his apartment for years. He was always holding a torch for her. I guess I am the one to get burned.

At least she is not skipping out on the kids as she has been last week. On Saturday she left in the morning and did not come back until 2pm. She spent the afternoon and evening with us, but went out at 10:30 to dance, and did not return until 4am. I took the kids to church on Sunday for the first time in years. I'm getting my own life now. We were out until noon, when the wife called. She reminded my of a birthday party my son was invited to. It was at a dance studio and I asked her to come along, but she declined. I did not lose my temper, I just said fine, I will take them.

After the party, she called to say we should all go to the pool. I could hear the OM in the background. We went to our town center afterwards, and she was trying to text him, while we were there, while I was not looking. I walked up to her and told her I could no longer tolerate her texting him while we were out as a family. She was upset, but she went to the bathroom, I guess to continue. Then she stayed off the phone for the rest of the evening.

I'm doing the best that I can with this, but as you can see, its really hard. At least I'm starting to get my own life, going out with friends, going to church. It does really help me feel more "normal".