She visited her doctor several times about the pain the doc would only give her lidocaine and tell her to put it on before sex. She said it didn't help. I had asked her several times to find another doctor but she never would
I admit this was a huge issue and I probably did add a lot of guilt and stress over it
What I mean by charade is it really hurt and bothered me that she would "fake it" during sex just to keep me happy or not to upset me. After the first few times and she knew something was wrong, why not be open and tell me that sex is painful and it's something that we need to see other doctors about. Instead of being open and honest with me about it, she chose to hide it until the pain was no longer something she could hide.
The last few months, before the D bomb, I have told her that I was no longer bother her with my needs and that she did not have to stress anymore about it.
I do have the DR book. It came in today. I am on page 70. I will look into the other book mentioned as well
