It is hard to accept the realization that I have been played for such a fool, but it is what it is. I made my mistakes, but it is obvious that her MO was to milk me dry until she could find a bigger fish to fry.
you were never played for a fool. You can choose to see it that way that you were taken advantage of. But i've read your posts...every single one of them. You can paint yourself the victim if you want...or you can learn. You're deciding that she was malicious but I don't think it was that case. you're saying this out of hurt.
what did the FB status change? Nothing. you learned nothing new. You knew she was in a R yesterday why's it any different because it's on FB?
I know it's hard to see. And the fact that it's still affecting you (to me in my opinion) means you're not ready to date, to say you have your mojo back.
Work on forgiving her for whatever she did and for whatever you think she did, work on forgiving yourself for choosing to get involved with someone who wasn't financially and emotionally stable, work on being happy for her truly happy for her in whatever she chooses.
I think you need to work on your self esteem issues, so that you can get to a place where you believe someone can love you for you and not how you can provide for them or what you can offer them.
And then hopefully you can meet someone who is YOUR AGE, and financially and emotionally stable. Your equal.
filing for divorce and getting a divorce won't stop you looking back. you'll continue to look back or make the same mistakes and be unhappy until you resolve your issues inside.
